September 19, 2014
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

Rock n’ Stroll: Support Mount Sinai Hospital’s care of high risk mothers and babies

On September 28th, my son Eli and I are taking part in an amazing event called Rock n’ Stroll.

Rock n’ Stroll is the only walk in Toronto focused on the critically important care of high-risk births – an area where Mount Sinai is one of North America’s renowned leaders.

My goal is to raise as much as possible but I can’t do it without your help so please join me in raising money to support Mount Sinai Hospital and the critically important care of high-risk births.

Just go to Rock and Stroll  and enter my name as a participant.  You will get to my personal page where you can sponsor me and Eli and read our story.

Thank you in advance for your generosity.


June 30, 2014
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

I’m Proud of PRIDE

This past week, Toronto was host to WorldPride for the first time, culminating a 34 year tradition of local Pride celebrations.  Also this past week, my cousin and his husband became parents and welcomed a healthy and happy 9 pound 7 ounce baby boy to their family.  A few weeks ago, in June, Ontario elected an openly gay premiere.  These events in quick succession have made me reflect.  Have made me proud to be a Canadian, a Torontonian and a family lawyer. And it made me realize how far we have come.    

It was not so many years ago that gay marriage was not legal in this province or in this country.  In June of 2003, I was in the crowd of Toronto family lawyers sitting vigil at the Ontario Court of Appeal when in the landmark decision in the case of Halpern v. Canada (Attorney General) was released.  In that groundbreaking decision, the Ontario Court of Appeal held that gays and lesbians had the right to marry.  The common law definition of marriage was found to violate the equality of same sex couples under the Charter of Rights and Freedoms in a manner that could not be justified in a free and democratic society.  The Court redefined marriage as “the voluntary union for life of two persons to the exclusion of all others”. And the walls came tumbling down. In the summer of 2005, the Civil Marriage Act became law, providing for a gender-neutral definition of marriage, as opposed to consigning same sex partners to the (oft considered lesser) state of civil unions.  Canada became the fourth nation to enact legislation recognizing same sex marriage, behind the Netherlands, Belgium and Spain. 

Since 2003, couples from all over the world have been welcomed in Ontario, and Toronto, to join in legal matrimony.   This past week, a mass wedding at Casa Loma saw 110 couples from all over the world say “I do”.  We heard from many whose countries of origin say “no, you don’t”.  Countries like Venezuela, Korea, Taiwan, Russia, Nicaragua and even Australia, where same sex marriage is not yet recognized.   Hearing their stories has made Canadians thankful for the human rights we enjoy and the freedom we have to love who we love, without fear of persecution.  So in anticipation of Canada Day tomorrow: thank you Canada.  Keep up the good work.     

February 13, 2014
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

Child Support for A Child Away at University

Many support payors are under the impression that child support ceases when that child leaves home to attend a post-secondary institution.  Our courts, however, have taken a different approach.  Child support is reduced but not eliminated.  In these cases, the issue is whether the parent receiving child support must reasonably maintain a “home base” for that child.

Subsection 31(1) of the Family Law Act, provides that each parent has an obligation to provide support for his or her unmarried child who is a minor or is enrolled in a full-time program of education, to the extent that the parent is capable of doing so.  Child support for a child over the age of majority is paid in accordance with section 3(2) of the Child Support Guidelines.  That section requires a payor to pay the table amount of child support unless the court considers the table amount to be “inappropriate”.  Interestingly enough, the definition of “inappropriate” is not consistent from province to province.  However, it is the Ontario law that is relevant for our purposes.

The Ontario Court of Appeal has held that the table amount is “prima facie” inappropriate.  Once that is the case, then court has to determine an appropriate amount, based on the”condition, means, needs and other circumstances of the child and the financial ability of each spouse to contribute to the support of the child.”

The cases have seen child support paid as either a reduced amount over 12 months of the year or full support for the 4 months the child is at home and no support for the 8 months the child is away at school.  The courts seem to acknowledge that, even though the child is living away at school, it is normally in the child’s best interest for the parent with whom he or she resided to maintain a home for the child to return to on school breaks. It is accepted that maintaining a permanent home for the child results in incidental expenses that subsist even in the child’s temporary absence.

The question then becomes what is the cost of maintaining that “home base”? Budgets, which we had thought went the way of the dodo in child support cases, are back.  A support recipient will need to show the cost of maintaining a home for the child away at university.  It must be part of the evidence led in order to be considered by the court.

February 7, 2014
by Sarah

Connecting judges in a connected world

Parenting disputes are particularly complicated when families have ties to multiple jurisdictions. A fairly straightforward dispute about custody or a parenting schedule may be exacerbated by  a battle about which court has authority to determine the children’s fate. Where families have ties to more than one place a dispute may quickly escalate if either parent sees an advantage in commencing a claim in a particular jurisdiction. As a federal state, Canada has thirteen provincial and territorial jurisdictions. With global mobility many parents have close ties to jurisdictions abroad, including fifty potential jurisdictions in the country next door.


Early resolution of the jurisdictional question may well allow the parents to focus on the real issues – where the children should live and how they should be parented. Quick determinations of jurisdictional disputes may also deter parents from a rush to court to try to gain an advantage. In the United States there is a very developed practice of family court judges consulting with their counterparts when there are competing custody and access claims in two states. Within Canada that practice also exists but is not as widely used as it could, and perhaps should, be in Ontario.


The Canadian Judicial Council has approved a network of contact judges in the various provinces and territories. The Canadian Network of Contact Judges exists and has established a protocol for handling these cases within Canada and internationally.  Where a parenting dispute arises, the published guidelines provide for transparent communication between judges in both jurisdictions. With notice to both parents, the judges make contact initially in written form by email or fax. Joint case conferences can be held by telephone or video conferencing. A record can be kept of all these communications and, if there is a language issue, court interpreters can be used. The judges can address issues from the mundane to the serious – scheduling, interim orders, mirror orders, the enforcement of undertakings, available services in each jurisdiction, the actual logistics of returning a child. All these issues can be dealt with between the judges with the parties present. This process may facilitate an agreement by removing barriers to communication and access to this information. If the parties cannot enter into a consensus on any issue, even procedural issues, then the courts will still need to address the jurisdictional claims in accordance with their respective law and practices. Following such a protocol would greatly reduce cases that proceed in that manner.



January 27, 2014
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

Forgiveness: do your soul a favour

The world lost a great man December 5, 2013 when Nelson Mandela passed.  Although a somewhat controversial figure in his youth, his leadership of South Africa and his work in eliminating apartheid were inspired and inspiring.  Watching the many celebrations of his life -and I imagine there are many more to come- moved me.  But it was the evidence of his capacity for forgiveness that amazed and astounded me.  And inspired me to write this post.

Forgiveness is tough.  Along with apologizing and asking forgiveness of those we have wronged, truly forgiving is probably one of the hardest things a person can do.  We are told to forgive and forget. Is that realistic? I am not sure I really want to forget.  I think I would prefer to feel the harm, and then learn from that experience and forgive anyway.  I don’t want selective amnesia and I don’t recommend it for others.  I suspect that forgetting making you more likely to make the same mistakes all over again.

When a couple breaks up, there is most often pain and anger, hurt, recriminations and blame.  If we are lucky, in time, there comes forgiveness, the acceptance of a new role and a renewed vision of your ex as an individual worthy of respect.  This is particularly important when you have children together, but respect for your ex is of benefit even if you don’t.

Someone once told me that the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.  If you are really done with a person and a relationship, then you don’t hate them.  You are indifferent to them.  Or, in a best case scenario, you can interact with them in a respectful and honest fashion without anger or pain.

Forgiveness is essential to being able to move on.  You need to forgive yourself for your part in bringing about the end of the relationship.  You need to forgive your ex the harms – real or imagined – done to you.  You need to make peace with the fact that you are a divorced or separated person and accept that new identity and role.  You need to consider the patterns and behaviours in which you engage which may have been harmful to your past relationship or impede future intimacy.

Consider this:  Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison. The man who put him there, Dr Percy Yutar, chief prosecutor, was seeking the death penalty.  In 1995, Nelson invited Yutar to lunch and forgave him.  A year earlier, in 1994, Mandela had his former prison guard as an honoured guest at his presidential inauguration ceremony.  As Mandela said: “Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That’s why it’s such a powerful weapon.”

Many clients have told me that things their exes have done are unforgiveable.  What does that really mean? What is truly unforgiveable?  What seems unforgiveable on the heels of the breakup might seem less significant and painful as time goes on.  Think about that.  Think about your position on forgiveness and rethink it every little while. Are you ready now to forgive something you might have held onto earlier? Surely your soul deserved liberation?  Take a first step towards forgiveness today.  You won’t regret it.

July 18, 2013
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

Holding the Family Responsibility Office Responsible

No matter what side of the fence they are on, clients seem frustrated with the Family Responsibility Office (“FRO”).  Whether one client claims FRO is not collecting support fast enough or another thinks FRO is collecting too much support, it seems everyone has a complaint.  FRO was established to collect, distribute and enforce child and spousal support payments in this province.  Every year, FRO handles more than 180,000 cases, represents nearly 400,000 people and collects about $650 million in support payments.  With that amount of work, I suppose they were bound to get it wrong every once in a while….and the 2013 decision in Ashak v Ontario (Director, Family Responsibility Office) is about trying to make it right.

Pursuant to a final order, a husband was ordered to pay child and spousal support to his former wife.  The support order was filed with FRO for collection and enforcement.   The husband left the jurisdiction and was thought to be in Iraq – a country with which Ontario has no reciprocal support enforcement agreement.  The husband defaulted on support payment.  Collection efforts were undertaken, all of which failed. 

The husband later travels to Ontario.  Due to his non-payment of support, the federal government and FRO manage to have husband’s Canadian passport suspended (under the Family Orders and Agreement Enforcement Assistance Act.) The Husband goes to FRO and wants them to authorize the reinstatement of his passport, claiming he was unaware of the support order. FRO tells the husband that unless he secures a support variation (either court ordered or on consent) or until he pays of the arrears, his passport would remain suspended.

A few months later, the husband reappears at FRO and informs them that his lawyer was seeking a variation order.  Big fib.  Regardless, after a few attendances, FRO authorizes the federal government to remove the suspension of husband’s passport.  As you would expect, the husband left Canada soon afterward and has not been seen since.

The wife sued FRO, stating that the office’s conduct was substandard.  The wife sought damages for breach of duty, negligence, gross negligence, breach of fiduciary duty, and/or vicarious liability.”  FRO sought to have the action summarily dismissed, claiming there was no genuine issue for trial since the wife, as a private citizen, had no cause of action against a public body.

The Ontario Superior Court of Justice dismissed FRO’s summary judgement motion and allowed the case to proceed.  The court held that a duty of care arose from the legislative scheme and the interactions between FRO and the wife.  The task of enforcing a support order is assumed by the Director of FRO upon its filing.  In this case, the support order was being actively enforced when the events in question occurred.  Justice Grace found that effective enforcement by FRO would have yielded recovery for the wife and that economic harm to the wife and the children was a foreseeable consequence of negligent enforcement. 

Since FRO’s summary judgement motion failed, the case will be proceeding to trial.  Stay tuned to find out whether this wife and other support recipients have a remedy against FRO if and when that office is negligent.



June 27, 2013
by Sarah

Can Ontario Family Law Change?

Is the situation in Ontario’s family law courts bad enough to prompt  change? Innumerable studies in recent years identifying problems in family law processes and courts have not had an impact on alleviating the crisis in delivery of family law in this province and elsewhere in Canada. The crisis is manifest in the overwhelming numbers of self-represented litigants in the courts, the lack of access to mediation or other conciliation services, the high costs of private legal services and restricted eligibility to Legal Aid. The most recent report by the Action Committee on Access to Justice in Civil and Family Law Matters reiterates the call for meaningful change.[i]  The Committee concludes that while the substance of family law is fair, the delivery fails families. This failure is not for a lack of sensible ideas about how to improve the system but rather for a lack of will and resources to implement those ideas. Some improvements have been implemented in Ontario but on a piecemeal basis. The Committee makes a number of recommendations to reform the family law system. The Committee’s  stated goal is to foster what it calls “Consensual Dispute Resolution” (“CDR”) over litigation wherever possible. Some of the recommendations are:

  1. To expand unified family courts province wide. No one could      defend the practice of having two family courts operating in overlapping      spheres of jurisdiction. It is a consequence of our federal system but not      a necessary consequence. Some 35 years ago the first unified family court      opened in Ontario. All Ontario families should have access to a unified      family court with specialist judges. These courts can then be the hub of a      system that delivers a comprehensive set of services to separated      families, not just traditional litigation.
  2.  To      expand eligibility for legal aid. The threshold for legal aid in      family law is extraordinarily low. Only those at the lowest income levels      are eligible for a certificate. There is no coverage for those in income      levels from $20,000 to $50,000 yet private legal fees are largely out of      reach for Ontarians at those income levels. The Committee recommends      expanded use of legal aid clinics as a cost-effective way to provide legal      aid service.
  3. To expand the role of paralegals. The Committee emphasizes the      need for paralegals to be trained and supervised. Paralegals currently      cannot provide family law services independently although many law clerks      work with lawyers in private practices. There is a risk that simply      expanding the scope of practice for paralegals will paper over the problem      if paralegals perform work that requires a level of knowledge and skills      that they do not have. Clients don’t know what they don’t know and may not      be able to assess the level of expertise needed to advise them in family      law matters which involve complex legal issues.
  4. Exploring the use of inquisitorial models for family law hearings.      This is the most radical recommendation and, in my view, the one with the      most potential to improve delivery of family law in our system. Our      current system is based on an adversarial system in which opposing parties      come to court with the information and legal arguments and contest the      facts using formal rules of evidence. The judge plays the role of neutral      arbitrator who is not permitted to enter into the fray. The inquisitorial      model, which is used in many countries, permits the judge to actively      direct the proceedings, to investigate and to propose resolutions. In a      system overloaded by self – represented parties who are, on the whole,      without the knowledge or training to be able to analyse the law or present      the facts properly, the inquisitorial system is the only way that family      law matters will be properly heard and disposed of on a fair legal basis.      It is not realistic to expect that self represented parties will vanish      from the system even if legal aid is increased. Nor is it realistic to      expect that the legal skills lawyers acquire through years of university      training, articling and experience, can be taught to self –represented      parties in information sessions. It is simply not possible to learn the      rules of evidence in a webinar.  Yet      the rules of evidence are not an esoteric exercise. These rules have been      developed over centuries to delve into the truth. In cases with      self-represented parties the only person in the court room who knows the      rules of evidence is the judge. An inquisitorial model would enhance the      judge’s ability to determine the facts.

The Committee is not alone in proposing radical changes to our family law system. Let’s hope that this time the province and federal government will listen and take action.


[i] Action Committee on Access to Justice in Civil and Family Matters Meaningful Change for Family Justice: Beyond Wise Words, April 2013.

May 2, 2013
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

Beware the status quo. Bring family law custody appeals in a timely fashion or face the consequences…

Perron v Perron is a custody case decided by the Ontario Court of Appeal where the issue of language education featured prominently.  It contains interesting commentary not only on the status of French in Canada and education as an aspect of custody, but also on the importance of timely appeals and the impact of status quo.  

The parties were married in 1996 and have three children. The father was a native French speaker who taught at a homogenous French language school. The mother was a native English speaker with some knowledge of French, whose mother was francophone.

When the parties separated in 2006, the three children were enrolled in French Immersion, a program to which both parents had agreed.  The father changed his mind after separation and wanted the children enrolled in a homogenous French language program. The mother objected, stating her desire that the children receive education in both English and French, as was the case in French Immersion.

At trial, the father asked for sole custody, or in the alternative, joint custody of the children and the mother sought sole custody.  As an incident of custody, the father also asked for an order stipulating that the children be enrolled in a homogenous French language program.  After a ten day bilingual trial, the Superior Court judge awarded custody to the mother with access rights to the father.  The trial judge’s reasons were silent on the issue of the children’s language education.

The father appealed, claiming that the trial judge should have considered whether it was in the best interests of the children to order homogenous French language education for the children as a condition of awarding custody to the mother.  He also asked for an order requiring the mother to enroll the children in a homogenous French language school.

The Court of Appeal decision unequivocally recognizes the essential role of the French language in Canada and extolled the virtues of homogenous French language education.  Interestingly, and despite the Court of Appeal’s confirmation that the trial judge erred in failing to consider ordering homogeneous French language schooling as a condition of custody order, the court had ruled against the father.  Acknowledging that courts regularly include conditions such as those requested by the father, the court still declined to move the children to a homogenous French language school.  Considering that more than two years had elapsed between the trial and the appeal, the court found it would be contrary to the children’s best interests to mandate a change in school.  The children had spent all of their educational careers to date in an Immersion program.  They were in Grades 5, 3 and 2 respectively at the time of the appeal and had never known anything but French Immersion.  The court felt this fact was fatal to the father’s appeal.  Despite the advantages the children would have enjoyed through homogenous French language instruction, a change in schools would not be made as it was not in their best interests.

April 26, 2013
by Sarah

The ties that keep binding…Sharing post-separation income with your ex spouse

At what point after separation do former spouses truly have economic independence from one another? Child support obligations tie parents together until the children become independent adults. That may be a lengthy period of time after separation but it is a defined period. For spousal support obligations there  may be no clear end date to the obligation. Unless former spouses have agreed to release each other from future claims or have agreed to a fixed term limit for support, the obligation can continue indefinitely. That leaves open the possibility of ongoing legal expense and uncertainty. Spousal support may be adjusted to reflect changes in the former spouses’ lives such as retirement, job loss, remarriage or ill health. There is a lack of clarity in how and when spousal support should be adjusted in the years after the initial settlement. One of the most contentious questions is whether a support payor is required to share increases in income which occur after the separation.

Spousal support is justified in one of three ways: (i) the couple agreed to spousal support, perhaps by a marriage contract; (ii) one of the spouses was disadvantaged economically by the relationship and has a right to compensation; or (iii) one of the spouses is in need. The amount of spousal support should reflect the couple’s lifestyle during their relationship and  is directly related to the payor spouse’s income at the time of the separation. What if a support payor’s income increases substantially in the years after separation? Does the support recipient have a right to come back and ask for more? The answer is not at all clear. Courts have not dealt consistently with these cases. The uncertainty in this area promotes conflict and litigation.

The argument in favour of allowing a support recipient to share in the payor’s good fortune post – separation is that in some respect that success relates to the other spouse’s contribution during the marriage. That may be because the payor spouse acquired professional qualifications, started a business, or started to climb the corporate ladder during the marriage which led to financial success later. On the other hand, post-separation success may be largely attributable to the hard work and creativity of the payor spouse. Others, such as a new spouse, adult child or business partner may have contributed to the post-separation success. The idea that spouses acquire a property interest in each other’s careers has long since been rejected by Ontario courts, yet sharing post separation income increases looks a lot like sharing ownership of a career.

Courts are more likely to order a payor spouse to share increased income if it is earned in the same business in which the spouse worked during the relationship.  Also, an increase in income close in time to the separation is more likely to be shared than when the increase comes many years later.  Some courts require very specific contributions to the ultimate benefit, such as paying for a spouse’s professional education. Other courts have accepted typical domestic services such as caring for children or the household as being sufficient to entitle a spouse to increased post-separation income.

The uncertainty as to whether or not post-separation increases in income will have to be shared with a former spouse can generate conflict and litigation. This possibility is yet another good reason why it is advantageous to negotiate a lump sum payment of spousal support with a release or, at least, a time limit on support payments to mitigate this risk.

April 12, 2013
by Jennifer Samara Shuber

The Worst Kept Legal Secret of the Decade: Family Law Needs A Complete Overhaul

Restructuring is what family law needs, says the as-of-yet unreleased report from the Cromwell committee to Chief Justice McLachlin of the Supreme Court of Canada.  No kidding.  Haven’t family lawyers and parties been saying exactly that forever?  I know I have been…

The Globe and Mail obtained a copy of the Report of the Action Committee on Access to Justice in Civil and Family Matters expected to be released this month.  Critical of the adversarial system, we are told that the report suggests a total restructuring of the family courts in order to shift the focus to mediation and settlement.  The litigation process should be streamlined and used only as a last resort.  Family lawyers and, more importantly, family law litigants have known for years that the system is broken.  The report makes a series of recommendations urging an overhaul of the current system, including:

  • The creation of unified family courts across the country, thereby eliminating the problems inherent in a system with both provincial and federal systems;
  • The imposition of severe sanctions in the form of heavy cost awards against parties who thwart settlement or behave badly in the litigation;
  • Stressing the importance and value of family law in law school curricula, in order to recognize the fact that family law disputes affect more Canadians than any other single area of law and, hence, lawyers should be trained to handle these cases;
  • Increased legal aid funding for family cases; and
  • Mandatory mediation.

I strongly support what it appears the recommendations will be and await the release of the full report.  From all that I have read so far, however, it appears that the report is missing a recommendation that I consider essential to a reduction in the need for access to the family courts: the education of the general public.  Let me explain. 

Most everyone in this country will be impacted by family law at some time in their lives, either knowingly or not.  This is because the majority of Canadians enter into at least one intimate and significant relationship in their approximately 80 years on this planet.  How do they decide whether or not they want the law governing property division on marriage breakdown to apply?  They really don’t.  How do they know when two people living together count as spouses under the law?  They don’t.  How do they know what their obligations are to their children, and even their step-children, if they separate?  Again, they don’t.  But they should.

People butt up against the family law system most often at a time of crisis.  Marriages or relationships are ending, emotions are high and much of the damage has already been done.  That is why the Family Information Sessions are too little too late.  These are two hour sessions mandated by the Court where a lawyer and a social worker present information about the effects of separation and divorce on parties and children, alternatives to litigation and court process.  Unfortunately, parties are only required to attend the Family Information Sessions when litigation is started.  By that time, most of the facts that will frame the outcome of the case have already been set.  For example, married spouses in Ontario are required to equalize their property on marriage breakdown.  Cohabiting spouses are not.  Hence, whether or not a couple married all those years ago has a significant financial impact.  As another example, a party may have, by steps taken or omitted during the relationship, unwittingly established a child or spousal support obligation. 

I do not like the idea of law applying to people without their knowing it.  But in family law, this happens all the time.  Couples marry, or don’t, without knowing what the future impact of that decision could be, which I believe is dangerous.  Family law is not intuitive.  It impacts in ways that are unexpected.  This leads to people who feel ill-used and unfairly treated by the system.  These people are more likely to challenge the results of the laws they consider unjust and, hence, litigate their family law matters.  Even if they choose not to litigate, uninformed parties take longer to resolve their matters.  They must first get over feeling duped and then learn how the law applies to them before they can take any steps towards settlement. 

Education is the only answer to this problem.  Before a couple gets married, it is imperative that they both know how the law would impact them upon divorce.  Family Information Sessions are a great idea but, in my mind, are timed wrong.  People need to attend such sessions before they marry, not when they are ending a relationship.  Parties require a licence to marry.  Why not mandate that, before a licence is granted, the couple must attend a program similar to the Family Information Session, where information about the law can be shared.  Couples who choose not to marry would not get the benefit of information this way, so we would need alternate dissemination options but it would,  at least, educate the marrying population.  Get them when they need something from us, I say.  We have a captive audience – let’s educate them.